Caitlin V

And you know, if we, if we, if we just were to focus on that aspect of sex and relationships, I think it would be a lot easier for people to sort of set down the rest of it and just see the inherent good that can come from us in beginning involved with one another.

It is an illusion of pleasure.

I need to look it up right now.

Yeah, but the illusion of connection, illusion of satisfaction, and we talk again about people who have an unhealthy relationship with porn, like illusion of connection there, that you're getting this need met, but it's not, it's not the thing itself, it's not the thing that you're actually looking for, it's just like a simulacrum of relationship, of romance, of sexuality, of intimacy.

it's not the thing itself.

The thing itself is like way scarier and more vulnerable, but it's also way higher reward.

I think maybe you could look at it like this.

The more that we play it safe, the less that we get out of our life, right?

Higher risk, anything, the more that we put of ourselves into anything that we do, we do risk failing and falling on our butt.

We risk the discomfort.

We risk being humiliated.

We could fall on our face and we will if we're doing it right.

That's what makes you an interesting person.

I was learning about hydroponic plants the other day.

And I was growing green onions.

I learned that if you cut all the green onions off, you can just stick the bottom in water and they grow back.

Yeah.

I had, okay, thank you.

I was today years old when I learned this.

You just like chop them all off, throw them in water, put them in a windowsill, they'll grow back.