Caitlin V

But you know, this is like why sex sells, right?

Like, can you really use sex to sell a car if someone knows that sex is actually a divine act that you share with a person?

Right.

But if you're sexually satisfied and happy, I don't know that that works on you.

People who grow up, whether that's religious school or like in a highly religious or a household that like had a more strict view of a religious view of sexuality, tend to experience more shame and they tend to actually

they will self-identify as having problems with sex and sexuality more often than folks who didn't.

And the best place to look at that is people who report to be addicted to porn are overwhelmingly people from a religious background, specifically men from a religious background.

Because folks who didn't grow up feeling that sexuality was shameful or that maybe even porn or masturbation was bad, don't tend to self-identify as being addicted to it.

It is those folks who's, because think about like how much,

how much energy there is behind doing something that you're not supposed to be doing, how much shame, how much that's kink, right?

Like that is a definition of kink.

It's just not conscious kink.

It's an unconscious kink to do something that you feel you're not supposed to be doing.

And then to feel like you have a compulsion towards doing that, like you're not in control of yourself doing that.

All of that is really like comes from a reading of sexuality that is based in a religious upbringing more often than not.

somebody who works in this world what are your thoughts on porn positive or negative in the overall so porn has a time and a place just like anything else i like to think of porn as a tool okay i think porn can be an incredible tool and i believe that people should have access to more erotic creativity one of my jobs as a coach is just to give people ideas that break them out of the box of what they think their sex should look like some of those ideas come from porn so they come to me and they go caitlyn you know uh i need to be able to like

jackhammer my wife for 15 minutes in order for her to be satisfied.

And I'm like, have you asked her?

Yeah.

I don't, I don't know that that's what she needs.