Caitlin V

And the way that I like to go about that is by actually taking them outside of the bedroom and showing folks where they have access to these in other areas of their life.

So you have access to the kinky part of you when you are enjoying breaking a rule.

Like when you're kind of like getting away with something, you know, whatever that is.

It's highly subjective, like I said.

So...

There is a lot, a lot, a lot of power in working up against something where we experience any degree of shame, right?

Especially like thinking about porn in particular and people who grew up in religious households.

So you asked, do people end up having kinks when they have a lot of power?

And I think that when everything is on the table, it's very hard to find things that are taboo enough to sort of like excite a response in someone

And I'm not saying that what Diddy, Jon Combs did falls within the erotic blueprint framework.

But when I think about kink very broadly, I always think about it in terms of what was that person getting access to that was taboo for them,

and therefore gave them a rise out of it.

Because the other shadow side to the kink blueprint is that you can need higher and higher and higher degrees of intensity in order to feel the same level of stimulation.

And that sort of sounds like part of that case.

I hope that you find some just good old fashioned adversity in your life so that you can know what it feels like to overcome a challenge and not have to victimize

marginalized and vulnerable people for, you know, to get your rocks off.

Right.

Yeah.

She's the check engine light a lot as an analogy.

I think that just because something is good doesn't mean it can't get better.