Caitlin V

Go back to the garden.

Take it to a professional.

Take it to a coach, a therapist.

Take it to a friend who is supportive, not a friend who has a lot of spicy opinions and you know isn't going to be able to actually hold quality space for you.

We've got those friends.

and then come back come back to the garden come back to the garden and keep making the garden safe you know i think that that that if you're a couple that keeps struggling if you go to the garden and you end up fighting every time what that is pointing to for me is that there's a lack of foundational safety in the relationship you might feel like you're at risk of being broken up with you

you might be in the habit of threatening.

If you keep that up, we're gonna get divorced, or you joke about divorce or whatever.

You might feel like your previous relationship was so unsafe that you're now projecting that into the current relationship.

But if the communication isn't landing, if it's not going forward and if you're not seeing progress in time, that's an indication that the foundation of safety isn't there.

And then for you, the thing to start with then would be to go back and get safe with one another, get safe with yourself, get safe for the other person and help them figure out how to be safe for you.

Once you have that, you can go anywhere.

The sky is the limit.

The book comes out on February 27th.

January 27th.

January 27th.

I was close.

It'll still be on sale February 27th too.

That's true.

But it will start being on sale.