Caitlin V

Schedule some time in the garden.

And don't just schedule like a one-off in the garden.

Part of doing that like process of self-reflection and self-discovery is going to be being able to have that conversation with your partner.

is going to be the part that allows you to not get defensive or go on the attack when you go to communicate with the partner so that you can have a quality communication.

Take breaks.

Don't communicate past your edge.

Write things down.

Develop a structure for communication.

Repeat what they said.

Go back and review it.

Summarize it.

Do all of the things that allow communication to be successful.

you will find, again, in the process of self-discovery, that you might think, I wanna have a threesome.

But then you ask yourself one question further, which is like, what is it that that would give me?

Oh, it would have me feel really desired.

Oh, what I'm actually looking for is to feel really, really desired.

Okay, I can take that to my significant other.

And I can take that to them, not from a place of you're doing a bad job of desiring me, but from an earnest place of, you know what would be really fulfilling for me?

If I felt like you really deeply wanted me, and here are the things that would indicate to me that I was really wanted.

And then revisit.