Caitlin V

You are the mind and the brain and the body that you can know to the degree that it is knowable.

And so you have to start with you.

Your sexuality pre-existed your current relationship and it is something that you will have until you die.

And so it is something that like you need to understand and even nurture for yourself and reflect on for yourself.

It exists independently of the other person.

And then it also exists with the other person in the couple.

So start with you.

Get clear on what it is that you're thinking about, struggling with, where those things came from.

Like know yourself sexually first.

And also understand that you can meet your own needs to a degree sexually and that you, well, it may not be a perfect solution and it may not be a permanent solution.

Taking care of your own needs, if you have a partner who isn't or can't or is not willing to for whatever reason, get right with you first.

That's number one.

And then as a couple, the place where I would start is...

I would go back to the things that we've kind of like addressed today, which is make some time, elevate the conversation.

Find a garden.

Find a garden.

You know, actually, that's it.

It's find a garden.

It really is.

Find a garden.