Candice Odgers

And then it's highly stratified by social class, right?

Where children from higher SES families are in every kind of sports and activity and are moving a lot more.

And part of that is money, not motivation.

You did great.

You know, I would add one thing, and this is something I had to learn.

And I learned it from the young people in our study, which was when you first turn over either a device or you open up a new platform for the young person in your life, have the conversation that if something bad or scary or upsetting happens here, I want you to talk to me about it.

And if you do, I will never shut this off or take it away for doing that.

Because we hear time and time again that young people hide, don't tell, don't go to a trusted adult because they're worried the adults will take the tech away.

And that now in retrospect seems obvious to me, but I needed the 13-year-olds to tell me before I changed my own parenting strategy.

Oh, I mean, they...

It is really actually incredible to see the way that young people can creatively use digital technology.

They're actually better in so many ways at silencing notifications of kind of curating their own feeds.

And this happens over time.

So it's very different when we talk to the young people.

younger kids around 12 to 11 versus 15 or 16 when they're kind of veterans or experts at this.

And they have a lot to share in terms of teaching us.

They also think we're terrible at it and they're probably not wrong.

And so one of the other things that I love to do with a car full of kids when I'm driving carpool is to just put out some question about tech and like how I should do it.

And they just fill up the car with advice and really good advice, actually.

Like what?