Carol Murray

Like I worked for a team and I was a subject matter expert and their opinions would say, but you didn't do that, but you didn't do this.

And why didn't you do that?

And it was just kind of felt like an attack.

And then I'm like,

And we come at this with curiosity and say, can you help me understand why that decision is or why that is?

You'll get the same understanding of learning, but when you phrase it as curiosity instead of an attack, paint it.

So that's why I think it's important to have the values and have conversations about how we're going to communicate with each other and how we're going to phrase things.

Because the people that were berating me with questions, I don't think they realized that they were doing that.

But once we said, we're going to come at things of curiosity instead, it totally changed how the team can cater to one another.

Yeah, or maybe it didn't even sound adversarial, but to me it felt like I needed to be defensive or vice versa.

So it took me two and a half years to walk like with a cane to get rid of the crutches.

And that was probably psychologically took me longer than I needed to because I would look at the, I always remember the x-ray where there was no bone there and I just couldn't allow myself to do it.

So that was hard.

We didn't get into this as much, but the MRSA you spoke about earlier, Shelly, it's an infection I caught and it's a super infection and it's resistant to mostly antibiotics.

So they need incomycin at the time.

That was the one that would work.

And I was alerted to it and almost killed me.

And I was getting ready.

Like I was preparing myself for death.

Like I really believed that we were going to die.