Caroline Adams Miller

Take a look at the conversations that you listen to in the hallways, wherever you work or live or spend time, because those are going to have a massive impact on whether or not you have the support you need to accomplish your goals. And this goes to Shelly Gable's research. Shelly Gable's research on active constructive responding really makes people wake up.

Take a look at the conversations that you listen to in the hallways, wherever you work or live or spend time, because those are going to have a massive impact on whether or not you have the support you need to accomplish your goals. And this goes to Shelly Gable's research. Shelly Gable's research on active constructive responding really makes people wake up.

Take a look at the conversations that you listen to in the hallways, wherever you work or live or spend time, because those are going to have a massive impact on whether or not you have the support you need to accomplish your goals. And this goes to Shelly Gable's research. Shelly Gable's research on active constructive responding really makes people wake up.

You see the shade snapping open in people's eyes when they hear about active constructive responding. She found that there's only one right way to respond when someone tells you they have a big goal or they've done something hard and meaningful that they feel proud of. The only one right way to respond that your brain says, this is a good thing.

You see the shade snapping open in people's eyes when they hear about active constructive responding. She found that there's only one right way to respond when someone tells you they have a big goal or they've done something hard and meaningful that they feel proud of. The only one right way to respond that your brain says, this is a good thing.

You see the shade snapping open in people's eyes when they hear about active constructive responding. She found that there's only one right way to respond when someone tells you they have a big goal or they've done something hard and meaningful that they feel proud of. The only one right way to respond that your brain says, this is a good thing.

And I'm going to do more of this is if that person responds with curiosity and enthusiasm. Her research found that there are three other ways to respond, which is passive, aggressive, passive, destructive, and active destructive. And they're all about either changing the subject or saying mean things or whatever, devaluing that person's excitement about what they've done.

And I'm going to do more of this is if that person responds with curiosity and enthusiasm. Her research found that there are three other ways to respond, which is passive, aggressive, passive, destructive, and active destructive. And they're all about either changing the subject or saying mean things or whatever, devaluing that person's excitement about what they've done.

And I'm going to do more of this is if that person responds with curiosity and enthusiasm. Her research found that there are three other ways to respond, which is passive, aggressive, passive, destructive, and active destructive. And they're all about either changing the subject or saying mean things or whatever, devaluing that person's excitement about what they've done.

And if you share your big goal or your success with the first person who responds to that, the first responder research is what I call it, that person has the power to make you disengage from that goal and just stop doing it. So think really carefully about who has your back, who's in your circle.

And if you share your big goal or your success with the first person who responds to that, the first responder research is what I call it, that person has the power to make you disengage from that goal and just stop doing it. So think really carefully about who has your back, who's in your circle.

And if you share your big goal or your success with the first person who responds to that, the first responder research is what I call it, that person has the power to make you disengage from that goal and just stop doing it. So think really carefully about who has your back, who's in your circle.

Do you have a mastermind group that believes in you and you respond with curiosity and enthusiasm to their goals? This is again, where I want to call out women for a moment. There is research showing that 84% of women admit to being surrounded by frenemies. Friends who are enemies. And why do women do this? Because they don't want anyone to think they're not nice.

Do you have a mastermind group that believes in you and you respond with curiosity and enthusiasm to their goals? This is again, where I want to call out women for a moment. There is research showing that 84% of women admit to being surrounded by frenemies. Friends who are enemies. And why do women do this? Because they don't want anyone to think they're not nice.

Do you have a mastermind group that believes in you and you respond with curiosity and enthusiasm to their goals? This is again, where I want to call out women for a moment. There is research showing that 84% of women admit to being surrounded by frenemies. Friends who are enemies. And why do women do this? Because they don't want anyone to think they're not nice.

And as I learned this research, what I realized was we're doing this at our own peril. And we're thinking, well, one day my mom will say something nice about what I've accomplished. One day, my sister-in-law, my cousin, my best friend, they'll be happy for me, but they must not mean what they're doing. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

And as I learned this research, what I realized was we're doing this at our own peril. And we're thinking, well, one day my mom will say something nice about what I've accomplished. One day, my sister-in-law, my cousin, my best friend, they'll be happy for me, but they must not mean what they're doing. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

And as I learned this research, what I realized was we're doing this at our own peril. And we're thinking, well, one day my mom will say something nice about what I've accomplished. One day, my sister-in-law, my cousin, my best friend, they'll be happy for me, but they must not mean what they're doing. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

And this is where you have to really take active steps is when you've got big goals, Bandura talks about the importance of being around people who believe in you, vicarious role models, supporters, and people who help you achieve mastery. And so do not make the mistake of being around people who suck more than they give. So I'll stop right there.

And this is where you have to really take active steps is when you've got big goals, Bandura talks about the importance of being around people who believe in you, vicarious role models, supporters, and people who help you achieve mastery. And so do not make the mistake of being around people who suck more than they give. So I'll stop right there.