Casey Jordan

they can't so once you have said i'm not interested and then you even escalate it to stay the hell away from me and they still are just coming around going you'll change your mind you really love me two things you need to do when those red flags come again repetitive contact um don't take no for an answer and the following patterns meaning they follow you around and they show up

And they just claim it's a coincidence.

That's them trying to exert their power over you and undermine your feeling of safety.

And again, pressure to communicate.

You're so rude, guilting.

But the key is, once it gets really uncomfortable, number one, tell all your friends, okay?

Mm-hmm.

And that's important.

You need a support network.

And very often it's saying these things, stay away from me in front of friends, having there be witnesses.

You're afraid to humiliate them, but that humiliation very often can burst the bubble.

This is a decision that every target will have to make for themselves.

But my advice is get there earlier rather than later.

You want to nip it in the bud at the early stages.

So call law enforcement because the number one piece of advice I will give to anybody who's being stalked is document, document, document, evidence, evidence, evidence.

You do not want this to be a question of whether you're a reasonable person or whether you're hypersensitive.

And this guy doesn't mean you any harm.

He's just trying to date you.

So document everything.

And I'm a big believer in say things in front of people and record everything.