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oh my god now i gotta emotionally monitor her and make sure you know so eventually yeah so for me it just got to a point where i was like i'm not i'm doing myself a disservice yeah like by not sticking to my boundaries and so i made a promise to myself that i was i'm never doing that again i will call it out every time i see it and so my mom and i had a conversation about that um we met up for lunch one time and had a conversation

oh my god now i gotta emotionally monitor her and make sure you know so eventually yeah so for me it just got to a point where i was like i'm not i'm doing myself a disservice yeah like by not sticking to my boundaries and so i made a promise to myself that i was i'm never doing that again i will call it out every time i see it and so my mom and i had a conversation about that um we met up for lunch one time and had a conversation

oh my god now i gotta emotionally monitor her and make sure you know so eventually yeah so for me it just got to a point where i was like i'm not i'm doing myself a disservice yeah like by not sticking to my boundaries and so i made a promise to myself that i was i'm never doing that again i will call it out every time i see it and so my mom and i had a conversation about that um we met up for lunch one time and had a conversation

And I laid out my boundaries again. And that was after we didn't talk for like six months. We met up, had a conversation, and I just was basically like, we can move forward, but these are my boundaries again. And this is what I will not deal with. Fast forward like a month or two after we had that conversation, it was the Carly visit was happening.

And I laid out my boundaries again. And that was after we didn't talk for like six months. We met up, had a conversation, and I just was basically like, we can move forward, but these are my boundaries again. And this is what I will not deal with. Fast forward like a month or two after we had that conversation, it was the Carly visit was happening.

And I laid out my boundaries again. And that was after we didn't talk for like six months. We met up, had a conversation, and I just was basically like, we can move forward, but these are my boundaries again. And this is what I will not deal with. Fast forward like a month or two after we had that conversation, it was the Carly visit was happening.

And my mom and I, you know, we're kind of still going through it a little bit, but we were talking and stuff again in the mending process. Yeah. And so we had the Carly visit and two times during that visit, she was drinking. At the visit.

And my mom and I, you know, we're kind of still going through it a little bit, but we were talking and stuff again in the mending process. Yeah. And so we had the Carly visit and two times during that visit, she was drinking. At the visit.

And my mom and I, you know, we're kind of still going through it a little bit, but we were talking and stuff again in the mending process. Yeah. And so we had the Carly visit and two times during that visit, she was drinking. At the visit.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And she was drinking at the visit and I didn't want to call it out exactly right there in that moment, which I've learned through therapy wasn't the right thing. Wasn't? Wasn't. That my therapist said you should have stood up right in that moment and said, hey, listen, if you're going to drink, you need to leave.

And she was drinking at the visit and I didn't want to call it out exactly right there in that moment, which I've learned through therapy wasn't the right thing. Wasn't? Wasn't. That my therapist said you should have stood up right in that moment and said, hey, listen, if you're going to drink, you need to leave.

And she was drinking at the visit and I didn't want to call it out exactly right there in that moment, which I've learned through therapy wasn't the right thing. Wasn't? Wasn't. That my therapist said you should have stood up right in that moment and said, hey, listen, if you're going to drink, you need to leave.

Not in front of her. Maybe pull him on the side. In the vicinity. As soon as you see it happening, you speak on it. Right. But my thinking in that moment was, I'm going to wait. We only have one more day. And after this visit, I'm bringing it up to her. Okay. And so after the visit happened, we said our goodbyes. The next morning, I woke up. to a text message from my mom's mom.

Not in front of her. Maybe pull him on the side. In the vicinity. As soon as you see it happening, you speak on it. Right. But my thinking in that moment was, I'm going to wait. We only have one more day. And after this visit, I'm bringing it up to her. Okay. And so after the visit happened, we said our goodbyes. The next morning, I woke up. to a text message from my mom's mom.

Not in front of her. Maybe pull him on the side. In the vicinity. As soon as you see it happening, you speak on it. Right. But my thinking in that moment was, I'm going to wait. We only have one more day. And after this visit, I'm bringing it up to her. Okay. And so after the visit happened, we said our goodbyes. The next morning, I woke up. to a text message from my mom's mom.

And she was basically going off on me saying like, the way you treat your mom is disgusting. This is before I even said anything to my mom or anything.

And she was basically going off on me saying like, the way you treat your mom is disgusting. This is before I even said anything to my mom or anything.