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And I remember we used a word.

We wouldn't even say the negative words.

And one of our friends actually helped us with that.

And she was like, why don't you use the word spunky?

And I'm like, you're right.

And so then we would always say it.

Because when people would say something about us to Veda, and if Veda's around, I'm like, no, she's just spunky.

She's got a lot of fire.

Yeah, fire.

And I think one day, and I say to this day, I'm like, that girl, when she gets older...

You know, nobody's going to walk all over her.

Like she's going to be fucking unstoppable because she knows what she wants.

She's going to get it and she's going to have a routine in place to do it.

And so we just use the, so you spin it into a positive, like, oh, she's so stubborn and crazy.

It's like, no, she's spunky and she knows what she wants in life and she's going to do whatever she needs to do to get it.

But to say that it's not overwhelming and hard... It is.

But I think it helps.

I think, like, even just with you getting the diagnosis and just seeing how she is, I think it does help, you know, for me to, like, step back and be like, okay, it's because she stepped in fucking dog slobber and it pissed her the fuck off because she struggles with sensory stuff.

And you know what I mean?

So it's just like, okay... There's more empathy.