Charles Duhigg
speaker
1,650 appearances
6 recordings
6 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 1 Jul
Charles Duhigg’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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So they teach it in the Harvard negotiation program and in law schools.
And what you do is if you want to prove to someone that you're hearing them, which is critical if you are in conflict, is first of all, ask a question.
And there's specific kinds of questions that are powerful that we can talk about.
Step number two is repeat back what that person said in your own words.
Not what they said exactly, but how you interpreted it.
How I'm hearing you, what I'm hearing you say.
And then step number three, and this is the one we always forget, ask if you got it right.
Interesting.
Now, I'm guessing, and tell me if I'm wrong, that if I was watching you and Matt, that you say something to Matt kind of meaningful, and Matt is like, you know, man, like, I totally hear you because it sounds like you're feeling down and it's been a tough day and that you need to make it through this.
Like, did I get that right?
Like, is that, does he do stuff like that?
Exactly.
Right.
And I know that you've spent some time in therapy.
How does it feel when that therapist does this?
It feels incredible.
It feels magical.
You feel heard.
Yeah.
Evolution has developed a reward sensation from feeling understood and feeling connected because that's what helped our species survive, right?
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