Charlie McKeever

They talk about intimacy. They talk about connection. The thing that we don't know, that we don't realize, is that intimacy is not just sex. But at the end of the day, what we really want, and this is the part that he's kind of confused about, is that we really want to be seen. We really want to be heard. We really want to be understood.

And the interesting thing about intimacy and being seen and being heard, being understood, is that if we're in this place where we're protecting ourself, where we're... trying to get from somebody the thing that we think that we don't have, then we actually subvert that connection.

And the interesting thing about intimacy and being seen and being heard, being understood, is that if we're in this place where we're protecting ourself, where we're... trying to get from somebody the thing that we think that we don't have, then we actually subvert that connection.

And the interesting thing about intimacy and being seen and being heard, being understood, is that if we're in this place where we're protecting ourself, where we're... trying to get from somebody the thing that we think that we don't have, then we actually subvert that connection.

Yeah. So if we believe that it's not OK to be us. that it's not okay to bother somebody, not okay to approach somebody, then what we're going to do is we're going to disengage, right? We're going to disconnect. We're going to avoid. Because if the idea of walking up to somebody and talking to them is painful, then we're going to avoid it. We're not going to want to engage in that.

Yeah. So if we believe that it's not OK to be us. that it's not okay to bother somebody, not okay to approach somebody, then what we're going to do is we're going to disengage, right? We're going to disconnect. We're going to avoid. Because if the idea of walking up to somebody and talking to them is painful, then we're going to avoid it. We're not going to want to engage in that.

Yeah. So if we believe that it's not OK to be us. that it's not okay to bother somebody, not okay to approach somebody, then what we're going to do is we're going to disengage, right? We're going to disconnect. We're going to avoid. Because if the idea of walking up to somebody and talking to them is painful, then we're going to avoid it. We're not going to want to engage in that.

Again, this comes back to that self-acceptance. I used to go into the barber shop and I would, you know, tell the barber, you know, make me look like Brad Pitt. And they would be like, I'll do my best. Good luck with that. And, you know, I like Brad Pitt's vibe. But you know what? He's doing a really good job of being Brad Pitt. Who I need to be is me, right? I need to fully own and be me.

Again, this comes back to that self-acceptance. I used to go into the barber shop and I would, you know, tell the barber, you know, make me look like Brad Pitt. And they would be like, I'll do my best. Good luck with that. And, you know, I like Brad Pitt's vibe. But you know what? He's doing a really good job of being Brad Pitt. Who I need to be is me, right? I need to fully own and be me.

Again, this comes back to that self-acceptance. I used to go into the barber shop and I would, you know, tell the barber, you know, make me look like Brad Pitt. And they would be like, I'll do my best. Good luck with that. And, you know, I like Brad Pitt's vibe. But you know what? He's doing a really good job of being Brad Pitt. Who I need to be is me, right? I need to fully own and be me.

The person that I really want to become interested in first, not only, right, but first is myself.

The person that I really want to become interested in first, not only, right, but first is myself.

The person that I really want to become interested in first, not only, right, but first is myself.