Charlotte Cummings

Yeah.

There's a whole big list of them.

I have listed out everything that I've seen over my career into a little easy downloadable guide on my website if people want to grab a full list.

And it's just a chance to kind of read through that list and see what it is that stands out that you don't feel.

So that's the really key thing with it.

This is the feeling that you avoid so much, you seldom feel it.

And if you do feel it, you end up really, really distressed.

When you first feel this feeling in your early years, you end up going, oh, I really hate this.

I don't want to feel this again.

This is really awful.

I'm not going to put myself in a position where I feel this again.

So it's kind of like we make a little promise to ourselves from that first experience of the feeling where we go, I don't want to feel this again.

I'm going to avoid this one.

Yeah, most of the time it sits beneath the surface and people will talk to you about the things that they struggle with.

Like people will say, oh, I'm a people pleaser.

You know, my struggle is that I'm a people pleaser.

Or they'll talk about something that they don't like, like I'm a control freak.

And the questions really become, why are you that way?

For what reason are you doing those things?

And then we can get to kind of digging and exploring around what is it that you were avoiding by being that person?