Charlotte Cummings

Absolutely.

And the best question you can ask is how come?

How come I'm doing that?

How come I struggle with that?

How come that's showing up in my life?

Like, what are the reasons why you are being the way that you are?

And I think sometimes that's one of our struggles as humans is we put a lot down to personality.

We kind of say, well, that's just how I am.

This is my personality.

But actually your personality built on the basis of some of those really early childhood experiences that you had.

And we've ingrained those patterns and ways of being over time.

But your personality doesn't need to be fixed, doesn't need to follow you around as if it's kind of able to cause havoc in your life.

And so often those things that we hold dear to us, like even stories like I'm a perfectionist, right?

Or how come?

Why are you a perfectionist?

What does it help you to avoid to be a perfectionist?

And I think one of the key things with unbearable feelings that I find incredibly interesting is that they actually cause some really good things in our lives.

So most of the time, our top achievements are due to our unbearable feelings.

You know, the things we get accolades for, the things that our friends and family love us the most for are often also because of this feeling that is causing us pain.

So the juggle becomes being able to hold on to the good parts of this and let go of the parts that are causing us difficulty.