Charlotte Cummings

So we have our conscious thinking.

We have thoughts, cognitions that float around in our mind all day.

But there are reasons why we think the way that we do.

There are reasons why we feel the way we do, why we behave the way that we do.

And we're wanting to get behind that to go, what is it that we believe that's behind our thoughts, our behaviors and our emotions?

Self-awareness is a great muscle to be able to flex sometimes.

And I know that at the moment, accessing something like therapy is a luxury for a lot of people.

I've got a couple of podcast episodes on this that are free for people to access and to have a listen and do their own reflection.

But you can also sit down with that really good friend who's great at causing and questioning you.

Most of us have one of those people in our lives that we can chat with.

Or talk this through with a partner if you've got one and see if you can work out what are our unique unbearable feelings and then how are they...

playing out in our lives, how they're playing out in our relationship.

What's the kind of, we call it a cross-matching.

What's the interplay between those two things?

But you can certainly have a really good go at working this out yourself.

Yeah, I mean, the couples that come to see me are usually in some kind of conflict.

So there's something big enough going on that they've come to see a therapist because there are issues that are recurring for them.

That's also really interesting because often it is patterns.

You know, it's patterns of conflict.

It's patterns of communication.