Charlotte White

No, I think it's good to assess both sides.

But I am thinking if I was in Tom's position...

I had this unexplainable feeling of not sure if it's jealousy.

There's just something going on inside.

I'm going to pinpoint it and say that it's you're not carving out time for me.

You're not valuing my achievements outside of our relationship.

If that's what I thought was happening, I expressed that.

It came out angrily, which I don't love.

Yeah.

And then my partner said, go see a therapist or go to a running club.

That would not make things better.

Totally.

I completely agree.

That would make me feel very, very defensive.

But also you'd have to be self-aware about the fact that you erupted, quote unquote, erupted angrily.

And then she had to like calm him down and regulate him.

And then suggest the therapy and stuff.

So it's like, but even then, after all of that, that would still be...

Any advice from the partner whom I'm jealous of, any advice that's like glaringly obvious, like go to therapy or join a run club, I would feel very defensive.

Join a run club is so funny.