Chase Hughes

So those people had a very strong internal locus of control. And that's like if you're a parent out there, anybody that's a parent, I know you have kids that are like 11, 12 right now. When they go to the doctor, I let them know you are in charge. That doctor is your employee. They will leave when you tell them to leave. You ask all the questions that you want to ask.

So those people had a very strong internal locus of control. And that's like if you're a parent out there, anybody that's a parent, I know you have kids that are like 11, 12 right now. When they go to the doctor, I let them know you are in charge. That doctor is your employee. They will leave when you tell them to leave. You ask all the questions that you want to ask.

And you say, come over here, take a look at this. So you're in charge of everything. You have a rash under your arm because there's some deodorant that made a red mark. Ask him. You can do anything you want. Ask him anything you want. So you want to teach your kids to have that locus of you're not domineering.

And you say, come over here, take a look at this. So you're in charge of everything. You have a rash under your arm because there's some deodorant that made a red mark. Ask him. You can do anything you want. Ask him anything you want. So you want to teach your kids to have that locus of you're not domineering.

You're not ordering the doctor around, but you are understanding like he's there for you. And you're in charge of the situation. You can dictate what happens. So giving them that agency of you can determine your outcomes in life is so important. And that's where we have things like white coat syndrome. There are people that get misdiagnosed from doctors and still suffer the symptoms.

You're not ordering the doctor around, but you are understanding like he's there for you. And you're in charge of the situation. You can dictate what happens. So giving them that agency of you can determine your outcomes in life is so important. And that's where we have things like white coat syndrome. There are people that get misdiagnosed from doctors and still suffer the symptoms.

So they get a diagnosis of something they don't have and start developing symptoms right away.

So they get a diagnosis of something they don't have and start developing symptoms right away.

The number one thing that I would say anybody could teach their kid, and I wish I could go back, and I did nine deployments over my career. I missed out on like half my kid's life. It's the biggest trauma for me is not having been there. You've seen The Ultimate Gift? Of course.

The number one thing that I would say anybody could teach their kid, and I wish I could go back, and I did nine deployments over my career. I missed out on like half my kid's life. It's the biggest trauma for me is not having been there. You've seen The Ultimate Gift? Of course.

Yeah. It's better than the movie, if anybody out there. I agree. The book's better than the movie. It's one of those books that, yeah, if you're a successful person, you buy multiple copies because you know I'm going to give this to as many people as I can. But getting your kids to a point where they no longer see the world through hierarchy.

Yeah. It's better than the movie, if anybody out there. I agree. The book's better than the movie. It's one of those books that, yeah, if you're a successful person, you buy multiple copies because you know I'm going to give this to as many people as I can. But getting your kids to a point where they no longer see the world through hierarchy.

So I'm in a position, and I teach people to have confidence and authority. We can definitely get into this if you want to, like the elements of what tricks a human brain into seeing an authority figure. What is it that tricks that mammalian brain? But the biggest mistake that most people make is,

So I'm in a position, and I teach people to have confidence and authority. We can definitely get into this if you want to, like the elements of what tricks a human brain into seeing an authority figure. What is it that tricks that mammalian brain? But the biggest mistake that most people make is,

In order for me to have confidence, in order for me to have authority, I need to have some understanding of hierarchy. I need to be above other people. If I'm an authority, I have to be above Patrick on this podcast. I've got to be better or higher. Like seeing the world through hierarchy will ruin your life.

In order for me to have confidence, in order for me to have authority, I need to have some understanding of hierarchy. I need to be above other people. If I'm an authority, I have to be above Patrick on this podcast. I've got to be better or higher. Like seeing the world through hierarchy will ruin your life.

So when we're talking about that doctor example, they're working for you and they're your partner. They're your partner in this. So all the ways that people mess up in business, and I'm sure you've learned this lesson many times. I'm still having to learn it. But I see the world through hierarchy, which automatically means I'm going to see competition instead of collaboration.

So when we're talking about that doctor example, they're working for you and they're your partner. They're your partner in this. So all the ways that people mess up in business, and I'm sure you've learned this lesson many times. I'm still having to learn it. But I see the world through hierarchy, which automatically means I'm going to see competition instead of collaboration.

So it becomes a competitive instead of a collaborative environment, which is not very good for life. It's not good for kids. But getting out of that mindset of seeing hierarchy. So if you have true authority, you have true confidence, it's no longer about me being better than anybody else.

So it becomes a competitive instead of a collaborative environment, which is not very good for life. It's not good for kids. But getting out of that mindset of seeing hierarchy. So if you have true authority, you have true confidence, it's no longer about me being better than anybody else.