Chris Duffy

One of the things that you quote is Bell Hooks saying that most of us are unskilled at love.

Yes.

And the other is about fantasy.

And one of your clients who is maybe being held back by these fantasies of what a relationship should be like versus the reality of the people.

I'm curious to hear about those specific moments, but also maybe just more generally what Bell Hooks' work has meant to you in the work that you do.

You know, Bell Hooks has many books on love, but one is specifically about men and love.

And you said that many of your clients are professional women who date men.

I know that in my personal experience, I am a straight man.

And I think that sometimes...

it can be harder to communicate about love, to understand like access to all of these emotions because of all the social pressures around what is permitted within masculinity.

And just in my own personal life, when I think about like single people I know, I know so many unbelievably talented, smart, beautiful single women who I would like recommend to anyone.

And then I have single male friends who are weapons I would not inflict on an enemy.

And I think that I'm not the only one who has that relationship where it's like, do you know anyone you could introduce me to?

And I'm like, I do, but you do not want that.

That's what I was going to ask.

What do you do?

What do you do?

Those values that you were saying, those are the foundation of true love.

But some of these you can build over time.

But some of them kind of need to be there from the start.