Chris Hare
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And I remember falling asleep in traffic one day, almost falling asleep. And then I remember almost swerving into a truck and I like those kinds of things. And those little tiny stories would keep reinforcing this narrative to the point that actually took me to the edge where I nearly took my life.
And I remember falling asleep in traffic one day, almost falling asleep. And then I remember almost swerving into a truck and I like those kinds of things. And those little tiny stories would keep reinforcing this narrative to the point that actually took me to the edge where I nearly took my life.
I know it's heavy, but that's part of why I believe in this work so much is because those, the way that we take those stories and synthesize them can be very high stakes. So like in that moment, you might, for somebody else, so you're in that situation, it might not hit you the way that it hit me and you might synthesize it in a different way.
I know it's heavy, but that's part of why I believe in this work so much is because those, the way that we take those stories and synthesize them can be very high stakes. So like in that moment, you might, for somebody else, so you're in that situation, it might not hit you the way that it hit me and you might synthesize it in a different way.
But that story, absolutely the worst story I've ever heard or told myself.
But that story, absolutely the worst story I've ever heard or told myself.
As a creative person, when I went to Amazon, One of my clients, who was the director at the time, became the VP there. He would always talk about inputs and outputs. And it used to drive me nuts because as a creative person, I'm like, no, I just want to envision this future and do creative things. But it really is that. It's inputs and outputs.
As a creative person, when I went to Amazon, One of my clients, who was the director at the time, became the VP there. He would always talk about inputs and outputs. And it used to drive me nuts because as a creative person, I'm like, no, I just want to envision this future and do creative things. But it really is that. It's inputs and outputs.
But the challenge that I had was the inputs and how I synthesized them. In my case, one, you do have to hit. I shouldn't say hit rock bottom. I think that's part of it in some cases. But you need something that Fletcher at the Ohio State University, narrative scientist, and what he talks about as a plot twist. So there needs to, something needs to happen.
But the challenge that I had was the inputs and how I synthesized them. In my case, one, you do have to hit. I shouldn't say hit rock bottom. I think that's part of it in some cases. But you need something that Fletcher at the Ohio State University, narrative scientist, and what he talks about as a plot twist. So there needs to, something needs to happen.
to create a shift, to shock you out of your way of thinking at times, give you a vision of a new possible future. So for me, a part of my narrative was also very much blaming other people. Now, to be fair, I had a terrible manager.
to create a shift, to shock you out of your way of thinking at times, give you a vision of a new possible future. So for me, a part of my narrative was also very much blaming other people. Now, to be fair, I had a terrible manager.
I had a lot that had happened across the course of my life, but I had taken all of that and said, I would claim that I took responsibility for my life, but I would blame others for the things that happened to me. I had to get to a place and in 2020, my marriage almost ended. My wife and I are now back together.
I had a lot that had happened across the course of my life, but I had taken all of that and said, I would claim that I took responsibility for my life, but I would blame others for the things that happened to me. I had to get to a place and in 2020, my marriage almost ended. My wife and I are now back together.
But to get through that, I had to completely rewrite my narrative and go from blaming others to taking responsibility and shifting so that to view a different future. My wife and I, for quite a long season, would actually say, we found it helpful to actually voice, and I would encourage listeners to do this as well, voice what the narrative is.
But to get through that, I had to completely rewrite my narrative and go from blaming others to taking responsibility and shifting so that to view a different future. My wife and I, for quite a long season, would actually say, we found it helpful to actually voice, and I would encourage listeners to do this as well, voice what the narrative is.
So in our case, it was, here's the narrative of what I'm believing about you in this moment, or I'm believing about this situation. I know it's not true based on this new future that we're creating, but this is what I'm feeling and believing at this moment. It really is, how do you create new inputs?
So in our case, it was, here's the narrative of what I'm believing about you in this moment, or I'm believing about this situation. I know it's not true based on this new future that we're creating, but this is what I'm feeling and believing at this moment. It really is, how do you create new inputs?
And so if you're in a place where you move into, whether we're talking business situation or personally with mental health, if you continue to put in the same inputs, things likely won't change for you. But for me, one of the positive inputs that I changed was I got into fly fishing. And so that put me in the energy of the river.
And so if you're in a place where you move into, whether we're talking business situation or personally with mental health, if you continue to put in the same inputs, things likely won't change for you. But for me, one of the positive inputs that I changed was I got into fly fishing. And so that put me in the energy of the river.