Chris Hare

And I thought, okay, if there's a hierarchy of giving back, it starts with family and friends, it elevates to a community. And then finally it's maybe something global. I think today I realized I had it the wrong way round. You know, the easiest thing, even though it's not easy at all. And people like Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk have my utmost respect.

And I thought, okay, if there's a hierarchy of giving back, it starts with family and friends, it elevates to a community. And then finally it's maybe something global. I think today I realized I had it the wrong way round. You know, the easiest thing, even though it's not easy at all. And people like Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk have my utmost respect.

is to create this kind of incredible but kind of minute change to people's lives versus the hardest thing is to look at the people around you today, your family, your friends, and to help them in meaningful ways, like beyond just a phone call, which I think is important, don't get me wrong, but to actually invest in them and invest in their future. And I can think of people who...

is to create this kind of incredible but kind of minute change to people's lives versus the hardest thing is to look at the people around you today, your family, your friends, and to help them in meaningful ways, like beyond just a phone call, which I think is important, don't get me wrong, but to actually invest in them and invest in their future. And I can think of people who...

said small things or did small or big things for me that will be forever more important in my life than any Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg. These are just people I met and encountered briefly or have known for a long time who made huge and lasting impacts. And all of us have that opportunity today.

said small things or did small or big things for me that will be forever more important in my life than any Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg. These are just people I met and encountered briefly or have known for a long time who made huge and lasting impacts. And all of us have that opportunity today.

All of us have that opportunity today to look at the people that we know and make a difference in their lives in a positive way. And I think that's the paragon of the human experience. The paragon is being someone who's not always a nice guy, right? Sometimes it involves giving tough love, but who can provide that value, provide that feedback to the people closest to you.

All of us have that opportunity today to look at the people that we know and make a difference in their lives in a positive way. And I think that's the paragon of the human experience. The paragon is being someone who's not always a nice guy, right? Sometimes it involves giving tough love, but who can provide that value, provide that feedback to the people closest to you.

And I think you can live a very satisfied life just by doing that.

And I think you can live a very satisfied life just by doing that.

Yeah, so there's two very practical tools that I recommend. And if it's helpful, I can share a worksheet with you that walks through these that you could share with your guests. But the first exercise is what I call the movie theater. And so it's a visualization where I have people think about their very first day of retirement. And some people say, OK, I'm never going to retire.

Yeah, so there's two very practical tools that I recommend. And if it's helpful, I can share a worksheet with you that walks through these that you could share with your guests. But the first exercise is what I call the movie theater. And so it's a visualization where I have people think about their very first day of retirement. And some people say, OK, I'm never going to retire.

So maybe the last week of life. Right. When you're elderly. What I have people think about is, OK, yesterday you had a retirement party. They give you a watch or a plaque. And today you have no more title, no more power, no more paycheck. Also, no more emails. Hooray. And all of those things. And so you decide to go to the movie theater.

So maybe the last week of life. Right. When you're elderly. What I have people think about is, OK, yesterday you had a retirement party. They give you a watch or a plaque. And today you have no more title, no more power, no more paycheck. Also, no more emails. Hooray. And all of those things. And so you decide to go to the movie theater.

You buy a ticket for the blockbust for this blockbuster and you go and sit in your favorite seat and you have your Coke and you have your popcorn. and there's no one else in the theater, and the movie starts playing. And so then I have people visualize that movie that plays is actually not the blockbuster, it's actually your life playing.

You buy a ticket for the blockbust for this blockbuster and you go and sit in your favorite seat and you have your Coke and you have your popcorn. and there's no one else in the theater, and the movie starts playing. And so then I have people visualize that movie that plays is actually not the blockbuster, it's actually your life playing.

and your career, not just your career, but your entire life, one scene after the next play, and the good, but also the bad, the people that you brought with you, the people you left behind, et cetera. And so I have people not just think about that, but feel that and sit in it. And then I start asking questions of what are some of the themes that you're seeing? What are you feeling, good and bad?

and your career, not just your career, but your entire life, one scene after the next play, and the good, but also the bad, the people that you brought with you, the people you left behind, et cetera. And so I have people not just think about that, but feel that and sit in it. And then I start asking questions of what are some of the themes that you're seeing? What are you feeling, good and bad?

What might you call that movie? And that sort of thing. And so what that does is help you see... the trajectory that you're on, what you want that future to look like, but also what does your past look like and bringing up those scenes. And so that is one way of, it's interesting because it feels very peaceful in one sense. You're in this

What might you call that movie? And that sort of thing. And so what that does is help you see... the trajectory that you're on, what you want that future to look like, but also what does your past look like and bringing up those scenes. And so that is one way of, it's interesting because it feels very peaceful in one sense. You're in this