Chris Williamson

Women typically want to date a man who's as educated as they are or more and as financially successful as they are or more.

There is a third element here that's being proposed by KP, which is the emotional development.

If you've done a lot of self-work, here is another...

delta to another distance from you to the people that you're trying to date.

And I get the sense that this is actually one that could maybe be more destructive to relationships, especially over the long term.

So on the front end, when you meet someone, you might be more concerned with their education level and their current earning.

As you get into a relationship, that may, I think, become less and less relevant.

On the other side, I think someone's emotional intelligence up front, you're not being that emotional, right?

When you first meet somebody, you maybe get some senses here and there.

But as you get deeper into the relationship, if you've done a lot of self-work, if you've done a lot of therapy, if you've thought deeply about your emotions, you're trying to connect to your feelings, you're understanding your patterns, you're really trying to go there.

You're trying to hold your emotions.

You're trying to develop yourself.

If you and your partner have a big delta, I think that is...

going to create more friction and make you feel more alone in the relationship than them not having a master's when you've got a master's and they've just got an undergrad degree or something like that.

So I think this is almost certainly a contributing element.

I don't know whether the asymmetric growth is that women are doing more emotional work.

It obviously seems like you are, unsurprising, Modern Wisdom listener, obviously.

I don't know whether that is on average true for women to be more emotionally in tune and developed than men are in the same way as high levels of degree accomplishment and high levels of financial success are true.

By the way, the stat of women out-earning men is now they out-earn men up to the age of 32.

It was 29 previously, and I think it's maybe 32, 33.