Christian Howes

I think giving men in explicit terms, talking about these things, talking about fear, talking about shame, talking about guilt, talking about

How do you, you know, respond to the urge to be violent, you know, and kind of this, this, if we say the warped definition of what it is to be a man, you know, how does a man on the street going to deal with if they're disrespected?

Yeah.

How are they going to address that without putting themselves into a self-destructive cycle?

Without destroying themselves, really.

Throwing away their own life.

I think that you already are doing that.

I think you're already speaking to men from that, and I already see all that in you and hear it in your stories.

But I just want to reflect that back to you and for you to know that that's how you're received.

And in case that makes you want to lean into any of those themes in explicit ways.

And you might want to ask people that question.

your audience, whoever you want to speak to and whoever you want to hear your message, you might want to ask them, what are you looking for from me?

What are the answers you want me to answer?

Because I know you get a lot of inspiration for these books.

So I'm already thinking about what's your next book.

Maybe some of those answers to what you're going to write about is going to come from people in your audience.

Lean into your relationships and make them as deep as you possibly can, whether it's your kids, your parents, your brother, your siblings, your friends, your students, the people that work with you, your colleagues.

Those relationships are the place where you get to really express yourself fully and feel a lot of connection and a lot of purpose.

I would say constantly work to rearticulate your vision or your purpose for your life.

It means every day you think about what am I committed to, what do I want to stand for, what are the things I want to feel, give, and what are the things I want to contribute.