Christian Rudder

And you'd have the same problem sort of in reverse. So you've got to be careful and manage your stack of profiles if you're doing it that way.

And you'd have the same problem sort of in reverse. So you've got to be careful and manage your stack of profiles if you're doing it that way.

That just introduces the logistical problem of trying to figure out who you're messaging, right? Okay.

That just introduces the logistical problem of trying to figure out who you're messaging, right? Okay.

I know. I'm always intrigued by that. I think it's a mistake, yeah. I guess it's like you're trying to flex that you have friends, which is kind of like the reverse of what you're really trying to do. You know, I think in general, my advice would be something that we've talked about already. And it's just like, you really are, you just need that one vote.

I know. I'm always intrigued by that. I think it's a mistake, yeah. I guess it's like you're trying to flex that you have friends, which is kind of like the reverse of what you're really trying to do. You know, I think in general, my advice would be something that we've talked about already. And it's just like, you really are, you just need that one vote.

You're running for office and you just need one vote. So... Being yourself, it's super corny, but it's also true. Kind of accepting the fact that maybe you're going to get a lot of no's out there and being okay with that. Because I think if you start engineering your profile to increase the number of likes or whatever yeses that you get, it is going to be more noise.

You're running for office and you just need one vote. So... Being yourself, it's super corny, but it's also true. Kind of accepting the fact that maybe you're going to get a lot of no's out there and being okay with that. Because I think if you start engineering your profile to increase the number of likes or whatever yeses that you get, it is going to be more noise.

Because you're going to have, you are ultimately only going to find one person, right? Okay. What does it avail you to have 100 people messaging you at the time? 99, that's just 99 more people eventually you're going to have to kind of like get to know with, right? And so I would just say really bring out the things that make you unique. I mean, this is all like grandmother stuff.

Because you're going to have, you are ultimately only going to find one person, right? Okay. What does it avail you to have 100 people messaging you at the time? 99, that's just 99 more people eventually you're going to have to kind of like get to know with, right? And so I would just say really bring out the things that make you unique. I mean, this is all like grandmother stuff.

I mean, like, you know. Yeah, but grandmothers were right. Yeah, sure.

I mean, like, you know. Yeah, but grandmothers were right. Yeah, sure.

Yeah.

Yeah.

What is that wisdom of the ages that I think is a real thing? Even my wife's parents are from an arranged marriage. And they're super happy, as are all of their siblings. And I think there is something to that shared worldview. And having that system was designed to bring together people of a common...

What is that wisdom of the ages that I think is a real thing? Even my wife's parents are from an arranged marriage. And they're super happy, as are all of their siblings. And I think there is something to that shared worldview. And having that system was designed to bring together people of a common...

sociological context right and they knew that that was what really matters right and I think they're right and anyway to get back to your question like I think doing the things that make you unique foreground those things don't try to like bury the lead so to speak and don't leave it for that second or third message

sociological context right and they knew that that was what really matters right and I think they're right and anyway to get back to your question like I think doing the things that make you unique foreground those things don't try to like bury the lead so to speak and don't leave it for that second or third message

I think be willing to take more risks, I'd say, especially for people who tend to get a lot of messages. If you think someone's kind of cute, but maybe they're not normally your type, go for it more. Because I think ultimately that stuff is so unpredictable, especially people's digital presentations of themselves.

I think be willing to take more risks, I'd say, especially for people who tend to get a lot of messages. If you think someone's kind of cute, but maybe they're not normally your type, go for it more. Because I think ultimately that stuff is so unpredictable, especially people's digital presentations of themselves.