Christian Rudder

But the opposite is true too, right? I'm sure there's a lot of people that are presented way more lamely than they would be in real life.

But the opposite is true too, right? I'm sure there's a lot of people that are presented way more lamely than they would be in real life.

Yeah. So I guess anyway, doing it to a few things, I think... Put as much of yourself out there as you're comfortable doing, like your authentic self. Take more risks with the people that you say yes to, or at least engage with. And be willing to accept that the process generally sucks. It's not necessarily the app's fault. It's just how being single and trying to date is, right? And that it...

Yeah. So I guess anyway, doing it to a few things, I think... Put as much of yourself out there as you're comfortable doing, like your authentic self. Take more risks with the people that you say yes to, or at least engage with. And be willing to accept that the process generally sucks. It's not necessarily the app's fault. It's just how being single and trying to date is, right? And that it...

Part of it is going to be lame or boring or terrible or awkward or worse maybe. And it's just how it goes. And you can't kind of give up. And again, I think dating apps are very, very far from perfect. And there's tons of very great ways to meet people that you're really going to – I didn't meet my wife on a dating app.

Part of it is going to be lame or boring or terrible or awkward or worse maybe. And it's just how it goes. And you can't kind of give up. And again, I think dating apps are very, very far from perfect. And there's tons of very great ways to meet people that you're really going to – I didn't meet my wife on a dating app.

So I'm not trying to shill for these things, but I think if you're going to be in that game, so to speak. Which people are, whether we like it or not. It's just like being in the world of, it's like having a phone now. You can't not have a phone. You can't, yeah. And so I guess if you're going to be in that game, try to de-gamify it as much as you can. Don't sit and try to play numbers.

So I'm not trying to shill for these things, but I think if you're going to be in that game, so to speak. Which people are, whether we like it or not. It's just like being in the world of, it's like having a phone now. You can't not have a phone. You can't, yeah. And so I guess if you're going to be in that game, try to de-gamify it as much as you can. Don't sit and try to play numbers.

I know a lot of guys will just be like, well, I swipe right on everybody because nobody writes me back. So I'm just kind of like, you know, spray and pray type of deal. Yeah.

I know a lot of guys will just be like, well, I swipe right on everybody because nobody writes me back. So I'm just kind of like, you know, spray and pray type of deal. Yeah.

It should. I doubt it does because I think... I just don't think the algorithm behind a Tinder or a Bumble, they put that kind of work into it to make that happen. And that's no slight against those companies. I think they just had different priorities.

It should. I doubt it does because I think... I just don't think the algorithm behind a Tinder or a Bumble, they put that kind of work into it to make that happen. And that's no slight against those companies. I think they just had different priorities.

I think in that sort of hack developed after I left OkCupid and after OkCupid was a thing of just basically just like power swiping right on everybody and just seeing what happens. But definitely it should. I mean, kind of to our point earlier where you were saying like, if you have...

I think in that sort of hack developed after I left OkCupid and after OkCupid was a thing of just basically just like power swiping right on everybody and just seeing what happens. But definitely it should. I mean, kind of to our point earlier where you were saying like, if you have...

spent an hour on the app and you liked one person that should be very powerful I think it should yeah I agree as opposed to liking a thousand or whatever but I doubt that actually gets in there but it should that's another good tweak for a dating app we've given you like we've like workshopped his next business if you can make it better for everyone make it better for everyone Christian thank you so much thank you for joining us thank you for not you know thinking it was a scam thank you you see you put yourself out there you thought it was a risk and you took a chance

spent an hour on the app and you liked one person that should be very powerful I think it should yeah I agree as opposed to liking a thousand or whatever but I doubt that actually gets in there but it should that's another good tweak for a dating app we've given you like we've like workshopped his next business if you can make it better for everyone make it better for everyone Christian thank you so much thank you for joining us thank you for not you know thinking it was a scam thank you you see you put yourself out there you thought it was a risk and you took a chance

Okay, that's it.

Okay, that's it.