Christiana

Obie's mom, why are you always having babies? And for a lot of women, you don't want to just be known as a mother. You still want to feel like yourself, but you have to find a new self every time. And that's very unsettling. You know, so like postpartum is a big thing. And I think it's not necessarily recognized. It's not talked about.

Obie's mom, why are you always having babies? And for a lot of women, you don't want to just be known as a mother. You still want to feel like yourself, but you have to find a new self every time. And that's very unsettling. You know, so like postpartum is a big thing. And I think it's not necessarily recognized. It's not talked about.

And there's a lot of shame around it because no one wants to feel like they're weak or they're inadequate. You know, and I still think that's even in the most developed societies or more supportive society, we still haven't figured out how to help women in that next life phase.

And there's a lot of shame around it because no one wants to feel like they're weak or they're inadequate. You know, and I still think that's even in the most developed societies or more supportive society, we still haven't figured out how to help women in that next life phase.

Well, for Obi and for Luna, I did a thing called Omogwu, which is in Igbo culture, the 40 days after you have a baby. My mum came and my dad, being very modern, also joined my mum for this thing. The first time we did this, I can't believe I'm doing this. But he came out and they did all of that. They'd made the pepper soups and my mum was doing the belly binding and all of that stuff.

Well, for Obi and for Luna, I did a thing called Omogwu, which is in Igbo culture, the 40 days after you have a baby. My mum came and my dad, being very modern, also joined my mum for this thing. The first time we did this, I can't believe I'm doing this. But he came out and they did all of that. They'd made the pepper soups and my mum was doing the belly binding and all of that stuff.

This time, we didn't do it. But yeah, that whole thing of being...

This time, we didn't do it. But yeah, that whole thing of being...

really having people around you there's a tiktok video that's gone super viral um of as a group of black women they drive up to their friend's house they're playing girl by destiny's child and they're screaming it and the their friend closes the window and shuts the curtains and they're like girl they're singing the song that you need to come outside and they break down the door basically she was postpartum and she'd been sending these texts about um

really having people around you there's a tiktok video that's gone super viral um of as a group of black women they drive up to their friend's house they're playing girl by destiny's child and they're screaming it and the their friend closes the window and shuts the curtains and they're like girl they're singing the song that you need to come outside and they break down the door basically she was postpartum and she'd been sending these texts about um

not feeling too good. And they were like, we broke down the door to see her. And I think if you're in a culture where it's not like South Africa or Nigeria or developing countries where the system is in place, your friends need to be willing to break down the door. Just intrude. Because in the West, you're so...

not feeling too good. And they were like, we broke down the door to see her. And I think if you're in a culture where it's not like South Africa or Nigeria or developing countries where the system is in place, your friends need to be willing to break down the door. Just intrude. Because in the West, you're so...

afraid of intruding your personal space is overly respected you know there's cultures where people just show up to your house here you plan hey Josh are you home yeah you go to a restaurant here you don't even go to people's house I think don't be afraid to intrude in those words like you good you good you good because I think most women and men are afraid to ask for help so you have to just like do the thing don't say what do you need just do a thing

afraid of intruding your personal space is overly respected you know there's cultures where people just show up to your house here you plan hey Josh are you home yeah you go to a restaurant here you don't even go to people's house I think don't be afraid to intrude in those words like you good you good you good because I think most women and men are afraid to ask for help so you have to just like do the thing don't say what do you need just do a thing

Do you want kids?

Do you want kids?

All the dads now are old dads, by the way, Josh.

All the dads now are old dads, by the way, Josh.

Wise dad, yeah.

Wise dad, yeah.