Christine Emba

It's very easy to treat people poorly or casually or waste people's time.

And so it begins to feel like a slog.

Yeah, you're shopping for commodities, which is not how you want to be related to as a human person.

And also kind of crowds out

other, I think, more healthy options for dating that we used to have in the past.

You know, like if you go to a bar these days, you realize that people aren't sort of

mixing up and talking to each other, buying people drinks.

There's almost a stated assumption in many public places that like, okay, we know that the apps are where romance happens.

So I'm not gonna bother anyone in real life.

I'll just wait to see if they're on the app.

But then if you're not matching with people, like you don't get that practice, there's not that human interaction.

And so, yeah, things begin to feel very cold.

I think, and this is not totally separate from dating, but also a larger sort of question and phenomenon in and of itself, we're seeing a real gender divergence in younger generations.

And this became really notable during the 2024 elections, right, where young men tended to remain in the center or move in a slightly more conservative direction, and young women

voted far to the left.

And that seems kind of representative of how

the sexes are separating in real life too.

When I talked about sort of dating apps and other situations sort of turning men and women off of each other, I think younger women especially are more primed to think that men are sort of dangerous, bad, gross, too conservative, kind of a risk.

And men...

are, again, I guess I'm going to like hashtag not all men, hashtag not all women, tend to see women as like not liking them, man bashing, and also like kind of users and untrustworthy themselves.