Chuck Weisner

Right, right.

And the idea of whether I'm doing it to myself and asking myself what's driving my opinion, what's driving my judgment, and why am I so hooked on the thing, right?

We can also, the questions help us, like each question can help us open someone else's hand.

Because we can ask, well, what do you really want?

What do you desire here?

What do you want out of this?

What are your standards for measuring this opinion that you have?

So our questions can literally help other people unlock and unfist, right?

But we aren't trained to ask questions.

We're trained to have answers.

That's one of the major dilemmas.

And then we get into school and we're rewarded for raising our hand.

And then we get into business and we're rewarded for being the smartest person in the room.

Right?

And that's a counter to the opposite effect is asking questions.

Yeah.

So our brain is spinning our answer.

And so there's no space actually to absorb what's coming at us from the other person.

Right.

And part of that, actually, the main reason that is we are we get addicted to our position, our ego.