Clare Crowe

So the paradoxical thing is the quicker you can say, oh, I hear it, the quicker they will dampen down their distress.

So instead of saying you'll be OK, saying you're really anxious actually decreases the anxiety rather than the you'll be OK.

I, yeah, my preference is always an understanding first.

Let's, we call it a formulation.

That's where we put all the symptoms in context because it's very quick, easy to take something in isolation and call it ADHD.

So for example, you see a five-year-old who's, you know, flying around the place, can't sit and attend and we're very quick to go, oh, that kid is an ADHD kid.

But actually a formulation would be, all right, so they've just moved house and they're

There's a bigger sibling who, you know, kind of gives him a hard time.

And actually, when we do some gorgeous, you know, regulation in the evening, he can calm really nicely.

So, you know, when there's... I'm always looking for the pockets, the sparkly moments, is what I call them,

The moments where actually we're doing well, because that tells me as much as the pathological moments.

So I do think, you know, the benefit of a therapeutic space first is you'll get to put things in a wider context.

I'm not saying assessment isn't a natural and important aspect sometimes for some children.

It's just never my first step.

I don't want to I don't want to label you.

I think the Irish language is just so intrinsically linked to psychology.

I know this sounds mad, but I always think of a teacher I had who used to always talk about Tobrone Irm.

So the direct translation is sadness is on me.

It's not I am sad.

So isn't that such a gorgeous message?