Clark Fredericks

You know, it may take a little time, but... You just got to find that person. Once you get it out the first time, then it's like, all right, my world didn't just fall apart. And just if you're going to talk to somebody, everybody thinks they got to be a fixer. Just the person you're going to talk to, just be like, hey. Can we sit? I got something important I want to tell you.

You know, it may take a little time, but... You just got to find that person. Once you get it out the first time, then it's like, all right, my world didn't just fall apart. And just if you're going to talk to somebody, everybody thinks they got to be a fixer. Just the person you're going to talk to, just be like, hey. Can we sit? I got something important I want to tell you.

I don't need you to try to do anything about what I'm going to tell you other than listen. You just need someone to listen. Everybody gets uncomfortable. So if you're listening and you're going to be the one who's the listener, just listen. You don't have to be the healer. Just sit in the mud with the person while they give you their spiel.

I don't need you to try to do anything about what I'm going to tell you other than listen. You just need someone to listen. Everybody gets uncomfortable. So if you're listening and you're going to be the one who's the listener, just listen. You don't have to be the healer. Just sit in the mud with the person while they give you their spiel.

And if you're the person who was abused, find that person you trust, your best friend, your Someone. You can't bury this. You can bury it and buy yourself some time, but it's going to come out. It's going to come out in destructive ways.

And if you're the person who was abused, find that person you trust, your best friend, your Someone. You can't bury this. You can bury it and buy yourself some time, but it's going to come out. It's going to come out in destructive ways.

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Yeah. I mean, I walked away and she walked away and 30 years went by and she was like a little tickle in my skull. It wouldn't come out every week, every month, every year even. But she would flare up and I'd be like, man, I wonder what Lisa's up to. I'd let Lisa get away. Man, we had a lot of passion. We had a lot of love.

Yeah. I mean, I walked away and she walked away and 30 years went by and she was like a little tickle in my skull. It wouldn't come out every week, every month, every year even. But she would flare up and I'd be like, man, I wonder what Lisa's up to. I'd let Lisa get away. Man, we had a lot of passion. We had a lot of love.

you know, now I'm at a prison, I get this law passed and I'm just like, you know, I'm speaking, working long hours and just like, I either got to get a pit bull or I got to get a girlfriend. And I'm like, I'm at a stage where, Where to be completely intimate with the next person, I got to put Lisa to bed.

you know, now I'm at a prison, I get this law passed and I'm just like, you know, I'm speaking, working long hours and just like, I either got to get a pit bull or I got to get a girlfriend. And I'm like, I'm at a stage where, Where to be completely intimate with the next person, I got to put Lisa to bed.

I can't really try to get into something where I still got this tickle from somebody from 30 years ago. So I'm going to reach out to Lisa. And I'm going to apologize for failing her 30 years prior and not being able to commit and not being able to be intimate. And I'm going to tell her why. And I found her on Facebook.

I can't really try to get into something where I still got this tickle from somebody from 30 years ago. So I'm going to reach out to Lisa. And I'm going to apologize for failing her 30 years prior and not being able to commit and not being able to be intimate. And I'm going to tell her why. And I found her on Facebook.

I sent her a private message, laying everything out, the murder, the drugs, the molestation, all of it. Um, and, uh, just, uh, I needed you to know the full story and, uh, it wasn't because I didn't love you, I did. And I'm sorry for how everything went down.

I sent her a private message, laying everything out, the murder, the drugs, the molestation, all of it. Um, and, uh, just, uh, I needed you to know the full story and, uh, it wasn't because I didn't love you, I did. And I'm sorry for how everything went down.

And I like to say my thumb hovered over that send button, like, cause I had this fantasy in my head and hitting the send button and it doesn't go the way I want it to go, that fantasy just gets. So is it better to just keep the fantasy alive in my mind until the day I die? or to potentially have that fantasy get blown up and ruined. And I'm like, no, you got to hit the send button.

And I like to say my thumb hovered over that send button, like, cause I had this fantasy in my head and hitting the send button and it doesn't go the way I want it to go, that fantasy just gets. So is it better to just keep the fantasy alive in my mind until the day I die? or to potentially have that fantasy get blown up and ruined. And I'm like, no, you got to hit the send button.

So I hit the send button. And she responded. And... responded and she responded. I responded, she responded. And I'm like, finally, you know, after two weeks of texting, I said, I want to get a cup of coffee. She lived about a hour and a half away. And we met for coffee and realized we still loved each other. And that was six years ago and we're still together.

So I hit the send button. And she responded. And... responded and she responded. I responded, she responded. And I'm like, finally, you know, after two weeks of texting, I said, I want to get a cup of coffee. She lived about a hour and a half away. And we met for coffee and realized we still loved each other. And that was six years ago and we're still together.