Clouds Joo

So she is right in the sense that if the roles were reversed, I feel like people would expect the husband to just stay home.

So I actually don't think she's an asshole in saying that, but in general, she is in a situation.

However, the good thing with money, and this is why I think financial freedom is so important, is money gives us choice.

Money isn't just money.

It's not just paper in the bank, right?

The thing that money brings you is choice, freedom, autonomy.

And in this situation, she has a choice to let her husband keep his job and use the money to hire more help.

If you are in a situation where you cannot afford housework and your husband is constantly away for work, I would understand that a little bit more because in that situation, someone needs to help, right?

I can't just be doing everything myself, especially if we both have full-time jobs.

It's just simply not fair.

But in this case, when you're bringing in so much money, I do think you could have a conversation with him before getting to the ultimatum phase about potentially hiring more help.

Especially if he is someone who is very passionate about his job, has been working for 10 years.

And if he is present whenever he's around, I do think it's valid for him to ask to keep his job.

Okay, let's look at some of these comments.

So...

Someone said, Ooh, I think that's a little bit harsh.

I think some people just might have anxiety.

I understand.

I wouldn't be like, oh, you need to grow up.

But I agree with the sentiment that you are in a situation that money can fix.