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However, I think I probably shouldn't have said what I said.

Four years is a long time and she did look absolutely wrecked.

But at this point it was getting a bit ridiculous to still expect such treatments.

Oh my gosh, this is such a juicy one.

Let's talk about whether or not I think she's the asshole.

So as I was first reading through the post,

I was thinking, okay, obviously this other colleague, Lina, has gone through a very traumatic breakup.

She came out to her boyfriend.

Her boyfriend didn't take a while, decided to break up with her.

That's a very traumatic way of ending a four-year relationship.

So I would say if I was in that position, if I was one of their coworkers, for example, if I was Lina's coworker,

I would give her a bit of grace, especially because I have been in a situation where my personal life was just a shambles.

And the last thing I can get myself to do is do a good job at work.

I think people don't realize how much strength it takes to just compartmentalize things sometimes.

And I'm typically quite professional.

So when I'm working, I'm working.

I don't bring my personal problems.

But it can be hard.

It can be very, very difficult for someone who's going through something like a breakup or, God forbid...

like bereavement or death or something that they're grieving through and sometimes a breakup can feel like grief honestly like especially if it's a big breakup for that person to show up to work and just put on a mask and pretend everything's fine and do a hundred percent like they always do that is very very difficult so the first reaction that came to mind is i would extend empathy to someone if i can see that they're going through something in their personal life