Clouds Joo

I make between 500 and 600K per year, and he makes around 160K.

Oh my god, they are ballin'.

That is a very rich household.

Wow.

Neither of us have an interest in him quitting his job to provide childcare, so that's not relevant here.

I don't want him to quit his job at all.

I just want the work travel to stop or be dialed back in a meaningful way.

I asked for no more than one week per quarter.

He claims it isn't possible and that he's been working hard for 10 years to get to where he is.

His job is meaningful to him and he enjoys the travel and the subject matter.

We plan to start trying for a second child this summer, but I finally told him that if he wasn't willing to reduce the travel, I am not open to a second pregnancy that would obviously be a huge personal and professional sacrifice on my part for our family.

I believe that my request is more than reasonable and if the gender roles were reversed and my husband made three times my salary, this wouldn't even be a question.

He is angry and defensive, especially around the money aspect of the conversation and feels like it is unreasonable for me to put him in a position of picking between a job he loves and a second child."

A mighty asshole.

Oh my god.

Okay, so this poster also added a few more edits.

So she also says, thanks everyone for replying.

Feedback I'm hearing loud and clear is...

Oh my gosh, okay, this is a tricky situation when it comes to childcare, gender roles, it can be a pretty sensitive topic.

But the first thing that comes to mind is if you are making half a million per year, I feel like the problem of capacity or housework can be solved.