Codie Sanchez

kind of moderate risk-taking, not enough assertion of independence.

These are all things that build strength for the long run.

The only thing I think you can do is using sort of trial and error, give them something hard to do and see whether they can adapt to it.

And also you're asking the right question is, can they identify?

I mean, the problem with the question, tell me the hardest thing you've done, is that the person we're most interested in wouldn't be able to answer that question because they wouldn't have perceived it as hard.

So-

you know, going back to the running analogy, the runners I know, the good runners I know, when you give them a really hard workout, they don't think it's hard.

They think it's fun, interesting, or they look forward to it.

They're like, when they're done, they're the happiest people I know, you know, they have a feeling of accomplishment.

So if you ask them at the end of that day, where they did that workout, what's the hardest thing you did today?

They wouldn't say the workout.

Maybe a better question is, give me an example of something that makes you happy.

And if my guess is that people who seek out challenge will give you an example of

You know, my dad loved to take really, really long walks, really long walks.

And it didn't matter how cold it was.

And we knew, and I would go with him in the Canadian winters that it would be 20 below.

We would go for like a two hour walk.

I would be 11 years old.

That didn't strike me as hard or him as hard.

It made us happy.