Coleman Ruiz

Like you have to be, you cannot move through life with blinders on.

Like there are people who are not good people and it's okay to have range and have that in your toolkit.

What I don't think is okay to do is to let that slice of the traditional, whatever you want to call it, aggressive manhood be your whole life.

That's just not functional.

It's not good for relationships.

It's not good for parenthood.

So every other little tool you can put in that toolbox that takes you all the way over here to what we might consider, oh, Coleman, he's soft now.

No, no.

Don't mistake my kindness for weakness.

There's a category for everything.

And I think that makes you such a much more complete person.

It's made me a more complete person.

It's difficult.

I feel like I'm brand new at being able to do other things in my toolbox.

Like this part's easy.

I can go jump to that in a nanosecond.

This part over here of normalizing, you know, life across a whatever, 80, 90, it's really hard to sort of excavate the normal shit.

But that's what I think we need to do.

You know, I mean, it's okay to be kind and calm and gentle.

And, you know, there's nothing wrong with that.