Colman Nocter

It's good.

It's not wrong.

No, it's actually a funny topic because for years, like I've worked in this area for 25 years, I'm kind of saying we need to consider attachment more.

You know, we're thinking about illness in terms of symptoms and in terms of brain and neurology.

Like the attachment is really important.

And now I find myself saying we need to talk about attachment less.

It's become so...

I don't know why it became such a juggernaut of popularity, but it seemed to resonate with certain bunches of people.

But people have taken a very complex thing and simplified it into something quite crude of which it's not.

Attachment theory is basically the first 1000 days of your life is really crucial because the hardwiring of the way in which you see the world occurs in that time.

Yeah, so that early infant attachment creates the lens through which you see the world.

So whether you are very trusting, whether you're very optimistic, whatever the case may be, that crucial experience forms this very significant working model that stays with you for the rest of your life.

I'd be a firm believer in it.

I absolutely...

would see that it has massive impact.

I don't see why it can't.

Do you know what I mean?

So attachment theory kind of, it flares up when you start to develop an intimate relationship in your own life.

So when you're starting romantic relationships, all the patterns of attachment that you would have had or that particular style

becomes quite agitated in those relationships.