Colman Noctor

Oh, bang.

Light the match and let the diamond go.

It is horrendous for a child to feel that.

And when you're saying about treating them as individuals, 100% in that context, it's

Because siblings are completely different anyway.

They have different temperaments.

There's different sensitivities.

And parents will always say to me, I parented them exactly the same.

How can they be so different?

Well, it's the receptacle.

It's completely different to how you do that.

And there's no one way to parent.

The skill of parenting is being able to parent two different children in two different ways within the same system, if that makes sense.

But that comparative of your sister never did that or your brother never did that and

And again, growing up in the shadow of a golden child or whatever it might be, is so difficult for another sibling because it's every day.

It's constant.

And it really shapes your own social construction of who you are and what your value is.

And if somebody compares you to that golden child sibling one more time, it ain't going to happen.

And then, yeah, so that would be one approach that I would use.

that if anything, the years of doing this has proved to me, never do that.