Colman Nocturne

Just go over and say hello.

She's like, no, it's OK.

And then we came home and he had her chips.

And then she went on Roblox in a headset with the same kid who was in the chipper.

And they're like, hey, how's it going?

I was going, what is going on?

It's almost like there was no permission in that informal situation to create the connection.

And the ripple effect of us avoiding social circumstances.

There was an interesting stat, Esther Perel talks about it, where she said 70% of the food bought in restaurants was not eaten in the restaurant.

that we're ordering things to take home.

And we're becoming these individualized units.

And it's all about I and nothing about we.

And I just think the fabric of community, and I'll just finish on this.

Religious affiliation was great for gathering, you know, even if it was just gathering outside mass or having a community thing, that's all gone.

And we have not been able to replace that space of connection.

And I think much of the difficulties that we have in our lives now come back to that lack of community.

And I just think the joy of missing out and the celebrating being on your own and the psychological movement have a lot to answer for here.

We're all about putting down your boundaries and be selfish and do this.

Like spending six hours in a bath with candles on.

Is it self-care?