Colman Nocturne

Like the joy of missing, like we had the fear of missing out.

Now we have the joy of missing out.

What message is that sending to children when you're going, yes, I don't have to do the thing, right?

What you're saying is socialization is a chore and it is something that should be avoided.

Now, we talk about lots of things, Ray, but I think something connected to absolutely every one of the things we talk about is,

is our lack of community.

Like even when we talked about this independence thing, when I grew up, people used to call to our house all the time.

Uninvited, they just arrived and they sat there for the evening and I had nothing else to do.

So I oftentimes sat and listened to these conversations between my parents and these people.

And there were neighbours and friends and people and it was completely normalised and it was lovely.

Where I live now, and I've been here since 23, I could count on one hand the amount of visitors that have come to my home.

And if they do come, they will give me two weeks notice.

They'll text me the day before.

I'll go up and clean the skirting board in the back room just in case they go for a snoop up there.

And it's this formalization of...

communication and connection right and I think that's a really unfortunate thing because I think it has like somebody said to me the worst thing to happen to Irish society was electric gates you know the idea that you could so and if I turned up at someone's house unannounced it would be like the cheeky what are you doing here you didn't give me any notice you're really weird that that's where we have made something normal deviant you know in that way that that's

And I was in a chipper with my daughter last summer and her friend was there in the chipper and they were over the other side.

And I said, go over and chat to your friend.

She was like, no, no, she's busy.

I said, she's not busy.