Colton

we got married and then it was like, you know, Hey, you know, everything's on the table.

Have a good, you know, have a great day and, uh, kind of left in the dark on it.

Um, so, and me and my wife, we, we got married when we were, um, 19 and, uh, we weren't, we weren't ready for marriage at all.

Um, I know I've heard you say, you know, that sex is, you know,

the symptom not necessarily the cause uh it could be the cause too but yeah i can it can it can bubble up in your in your sex life for sure that's right that's right and so we had a very unstable um few years the first few years of marriage talking about from emotionally to financially um all that and um sex was a big one um you know the only thing i knew

about was from work.

Um, my parents never did talk about it.

Um, she knew next to nothing.

Um, her parents never did really talk to her about it either.

And, uh, it, it, what happened was, is it kind of developed a lot of anxiety around it on her part.

And, um, at the beginning of our marriage, it was more of what drove us apart than it did bringing us together.

Sure.

And now that we know that, the thing that, you know, I'm struggling with is, you know, even though we don't have the exact same scenario as what I had, you know, both of us had growing up with our boys, I feel like the strong and healthy connection with it needs to be talked about.

Yes, big time.

I don't know how to broach that subject because, you know, I never did have that.

Yeah.

That's how it was with, you know, my family and even her family, it's a very private thing, even to show outward affection, you know, and that can be just, you know, hugging or kissing or whatever it is, you know, never did see that a lot.

Yes.

And I can say that me and my wife have come a long ways when it comes to that.

Amazing.