Connell Barrett

You probably see them at Starbucks, at your gym.

If you're a bar guy, you might see them at your local bar when you go out a couple nights a week.

And you want to talk to that interesting,

attractive, bubbly, cute girl, but you just don't know what to say.

And so when you don't know what to say, you freeze and you miss your chance.

And then if you beat yourself up, it's so frustrating.

It's so frustrating.

So the very first time I ever decided I needed to get my dating life into a better place, I was at a Starbucks on Park Avenue, 29th and Park here in New York City.

And there was this gorgeous woman sitting by herself, brunette, on a Sunday afternoon.

And I walked over to try to say something.

But I didn't know what the right thing to say was.

And so I literally circled her chair for 90 seconds like a frightened shark.

And then I went back and sat down and tried to figure out, okay, I'll say this.

I'll say that.

And then she got up, walked out.

probably out to meet some other guy.

And it certainly wasn't me.

And so that made me just beat myself up.

I felt so frustrated.

I was like, why can't I talk to women?