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which is code for kiss me.

And I did.

And we dated for a while.

We had kind of a summer fling.

It was a wonderful up-leveling of my dating success at a time when I was struggling big time to get second dates.

And banter is what got me some really nice breakthroughs.

And it's no coincidence that the majority of women I've dated as girlfriends have all been big into banter because we tend to be drawn toward what we do.

Okay, let's move up to level four, emotional connection.

Emotional connection, good old-fashioned emotional connection.

I define emotional connection as you and that woman feeling the same way about things, shared feelings, not just shared facts.

And my girlfriend Jess and I,

had a really great first date.

And our banter on our first date was fantastic.

But what really made me start to look at her and say, wow, I think this might be my future girlfriend, if I play my cards right.

It was the way we emotionally connected.

And I remember on our first date, she talked a lot about her brother.

She's really close to her brother, Aaron.

And I talked a lot about my sister, Kelly.

And we just sort of clicked about each other's families.

We bantered and had a lot of fun.