Connell Barrett

And what I want you to know is that women don't judge men like us for having sexual desire, at least not negatively judge us.

It's called being human.

Women judge men based on how that desire is expressed.

And yours came off as dorky, almost innocent.

I mean, nom, nom, nom.

Dude, you sounded less like a creep and more like Cookie Monster let loose in a bakery.

Okay, tip number two to bounce back from this and keep her interested and get a second date.

Own it with humor and then shut up.

Own it with humor, but then shut up about it.

Don't grovel.

Just own the mistake with good humor.

A man who can laugh at himself and take responsibility is so attractive to women.

So my advice is send her a self-effacing, lighthearted message.

And it's really important that in your message, you mention that you like her for more than her body.

The only thing about this message that could trip you up, Bext, is that it was about

her breasts, her boobs, nom, nom, nom.

And that's okay.

Beautiful, attractive women pretty much know they're physically attractive, but women generally don't want to be objectified.

They don't want to be seen as just their body.

And it's, it's fine to be attracted to somebody, but you don't want a person, a woman to feel reduced to her body parts.