Connell Barrett

Count conversation threads.

Let's say the first conversation thread is about dogs, her dog and your dog.

And then the second conversation thread is about Christmas plants.

Now you've looked at the messages, say to yourself, oh, we've now talked about two topics, then ask her out.

Don't wait any longer than two conversation threads.

Sometimes just one conversation thread is enough.

Two max, then ask her out.

Another guideline I have about texting is, again, don't count texts, but focus on her vibe.

Is she giving you short, logical answers and not really putting much effort into it?

Well, don't ask her out because she's probably not feeling the vibes yet enough.

But if her first or second text message to you – or sorry, dating app message –

is like three heart eye emojis and LOL and clear effusive good energy, ask her out right away.

Don't worry about counting texts or conversation threads.

Read the room and go for the digits, go for the date while the iron's hot.

She's basically telling you, ask me out.

And one other thing I'll notice other than text messages, other than besides counting texts, is...

I'm more focused, my clients and I are more focused on a mutual, approximately even-Steven balance of texting.

in terms of the number of my messages and hers.

We want the balance to be roughly 50-50, 40-60 in either direction.

Either one's good.