Connell Barrett

And let's begin with a night many years ago in Las Vegas.

I was struggling that night.

I'd gone to Las Vegas and I hadn't become a coach.

I'd become pretty adept at flirting and approaching, but I wasn't really masterful yet.

And I was having a tough night, a lot of rejections, a lot of approaches just didn't click.

And I was trying too hard.

I was trying to think of the perfect thing to say.

I was trying to think of the right line.

And then I said, all right, let's change the strategy here.

Let's just do a playful approach opener, playful.

And that's the key word here.

Level one of flirting is about play.

Flirting in a word is play.

It literally is defined, the word flirting is defined as playing at love in the Oxford Dictionary.

So back to Vegas.

I'm struggling, I'm getting rejected, I'm having a tough night, and then I see a young woman

early twenties, tall, blonde, really pretty.

And she's with a couple of female friends.

And I say, you know what?

I'm not going to try to use the perfect line.