Connell Barrett

And so when you don't know what to say, you freeze and you miss your chance.

And then if you beat yourself up, it's so frustrating.

It's so frustrating.

So the very first time I ever decided I needed to get my dating life into a better place, I was at a Starbucks on Park Avenue, 29th and Park here in New York City.

And there was this gorgeous woman sitting by herself, brunette, on a Sunday afternoon.

And I walked over to try to say something.

But I didn't know what the right thing to say was.

And so I literally circled her chair for 90 seconds like a frightened shark.

And then I went back and sat down and tried to figure out, okay, I'll say this.

I'll say that.

And then she got up, walked out.

probably out to meet some other guy.

And it certainly wasn't me.

And so that made me just beat myself up.

I felt so frustrated.

I was like, why can't I talk to women?

And if you can't or don't talk to women out in the real world, then this can leave you to settling for women you're just not that attracted to.

Or it means you pretty much are stuck with whatever scraps you can get on the dating apps if the apps aren't working for you.

So that's where I was once upon a time.

And yeah, so if you're not approaching women and you're struggling on the apps, then you've got pretty much no dating life at all.