Connell Barrett

That was when I really wanted you.

Can you imagine?

It was only when I screwed up and fucked up that Laura got extra attracted to me.

And I said, why?

What are you talking about?

She said, well, the way you owned it and laughed it off, it was so impressive.

You were like the most confident guy in the room.

And

We dated for several months.

We didn't become boyfriend-girlfriend.

We weren't really a good long-term romantic fit.

But we did connect in a way that I feel good about, and I think she did as well.

So back to you, dear vexed letter writer.

So your embarrassing voice note is not the issue here, or not something that you really need to think about or worry about.

How you handle it from here is everything.

So here's your three-step plan to give you a really good chance of salvaging it with this woman.

Tip number one is remember, it's not the mistake, it's the recovery.

When you make a mistake on a date, it's not so much the mistake, but how you bounce back from it that women are going to notice.

Keep in mind, your audio note did not say anything vulgar.

Let me go back and restate the audio note.