Connell Barrett

Think about emotions in common.

It's okay.

It's good, actually.

It's not a bad thing to have things in common.

But you don't need informational commonalities.

Just because you and she went to the same college does not mean she's going to want to date you or get attracted to you.

However, if the two of you felt the same way about certain parts of college, if you found emotional commonalities, then that's what can work.

so yeah most guys make the mistake of trying to chase stuff in common don't do that the way it should look is feeling the same way about music about hobbies um sharing your love or hate of things on my first date with jess i remember how we clicked over we both love seinfeld

love Italian food and food in general.

We feel the same way about New York City restaurants.

We also hate jogging.

We talked about foods we hate.

She hates ketchup.

I hate mushrooms.

We talked about that a little bit, not for 20 minutes, you know, five minutes, two minutes.

And we found ourselves feeling the same way about things.

So that's one level of emotional connection.

A slightly deeper way to go a little bit deeper on level four is emotional vulnerability, dropping your guard, opening up more.

allowing a woman to see, oh my God, he gets me.

He's showing his real self.