Connell Barrett

That's okay.

That's very human.

It's very normal.

Can you imagine the kinds of conversations that women have about us?

Everything from G-rated to R-rated to X-rated.

It is okay.

And what I want you to know is that women don't judge men like us for having sexual desire, at least not negatively judge us.

It's called being human.

Women judge men based on how that desire is expressed.

And yours came off as dorky, almost innocent.

I mean, nom, nom, nom.

Dude, you sounded less like a creep and more like Cookie Monster let loose in a bakery.

Okay, tip number two to bounce back from this and keep her interested and get a second date.

Own it with humor and then shut up.

Own it with humor, but then shut up about it.

Don't grovel.

Just own the mistake with good humor.

A man who can laugh at himself and take responsibility is so attractive to women.

So my advice is send her a self-effacing, lighthearted message.

And it's really important that in your message, you mention that you like her for more than her body.