Connell Barrett

We weren't really a good long-term romantic fit.

But we did connect in a way that I feel good about, and I think she did as well.

So back to you, dear vexed letter writer.

So your embarrassing voice note is not the issue here, or not something that you really need to think about or worry about.

How you handle it from here is everything.

So here's your three-step plan to give you a really good chance of salvaging it with this woman.

Tip number one is remember, it's not the mistake, it's the recovery.

When you make a mistake on a date, it's not so much the mistake, but how you bounce back from it that women are going to notice.

Keep in mind, your audio note did not say anything vulgar.

Let me go back and restate the audio note.

Again, here's what his voice note said to her.

Bro, her boobs are ridiculous.

I just want to nom, nom, nom on them like a toddler.

Nom, nom, nom, nom, nom.

There's nothing that's embarrassing.

It's absurd, but it's not vulgar.

Now, you did home in on her body, right?

You did make it about her body.

And I'll talk about that in a second.

But you were just making guy talk and expressing your physical attraction for a woman.